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She connected on Instagram with a guy who lived in another country. Then they decided to meet up

Amanda and Sunil decided to stay in touch after Amanda's India vacation came to an end. (Courtesy Amanda Boyce via CNN Newsource)
Amanda and Sunil decided to stay in touch after Amanda's India vacation came to an end. (Courtesy Amanda Boyce via CNN Newsource)
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Amanda Boyce stumbled across Sunil Rajput鈥檚 Instagram profile by accident.

Sitting in her home in Brisbane, Australia, Amanda was absentmindedly scrolling social media. As she flicked through Instagram stories 鈥 one after the other, snapshots of different people鈥檚 lives popping up on her phone screen 鈥 she suddenly found herself looking at Sunil for the first time.

An account Amanda followed had shared one of Sunil鈥檚 posts to their Instagram story. Amanda clicked through and the photo 鈥 of Sunil smiling at the camera 鈥 enlarged on her phone.

鈥淲ow, he鈥檚 good looking,鈥 she thought. Then she scrolled down his page 鈥 posts about fitness, travel, his life in India. He seems interesting, Amanda thought.

Without overthinking it, Amanda hit follow.

It was early 2018. Amanda, then 27, was feeling a little disillusioned and unsatisfied with her everyday life in Australia.

鈥淚 had gone through some traumatic situations in the years prior, and I was just feeling a bit lost in my life in Brisbane,鈥 Amanda tells CNN Travel today.

鈥淚 had a full-time job, but I didn鈥檛 have my own home, any kids, no pets. I didn鈥檛 really have a purpose, so I found myself just like scrolling Instagram a lot, and then I found Sunil鈥檚 page鈥nd really didn鈥檛 know what I was expecting, honestly.鈥

Amanda started liking Sunil鈥檚 posts whenever they popped up on her feed. She almost always looked at his stories. She enjoyed seeing snippets of Sunil鈥檚 life 鈥 flashes of him going out with friends, cooking, working out.

鈥淎nd then one day, he just randomly messaged me,鈥 she recalls.

Amanda and Sunil started chatting, messaging back and forth on Instagram, introducing themselves, talking a little about their lives.

And then Sunil suggested they chat on the phone. It was early evening in India, a little later into the night in Brisbane, Australia.

Amanda was a little apprehensive at first, but then she figured, if it was awkward, or Sunil wasn鈥檛 who he said he was, she鈥檇 just hang up.

But as soon as Sunil鈥檚 voice answered the call, Amanda felt 鈥渞eally comfortable and safe.鈥

The two strangers talked for hours, sharing details about their lives, their past relationships, their hopes and dreams.

鈥淚t felt really nice to connect and talk to someone so openly about my whole life,鈥 says Amanda.

鈥淏ut then the next day, I panicked and I thought, 鈥業 don鈥檛 know why I鈥檓 investing my time in someone that lives 10,000 kilometres away.鈥 I felt like I made a mistake about being too open with someone I didn鈥檛 really know.鈥

Amanda felt embarrassed 鈥 almost guilty.

鈥淪o I kind of ghosted him,鈥 she says. 鈥淗e kept trying to message and check in with me, but I didn鈥檛 really reply.鈥

A spontaneous trip

Amanda tried to put Sunil out of her mind. But their conversation had sparked an idea. Amanda had always wanted to visit India and a good friend of hers had recently moved there.

鈥淚 decided I wanted to book a trip to come to India and meet my friend,鈥 she recalls. 鈥淪o I booked my flights.鈥

Amanda and Sunil felt instantly at ease with each other when they met in person for the first time. (Courtesy Amanda Boyce via CNN Newsource)

By coincidence, Amanda鈥檚 friend lived in the same city as Sunil 鈥 Chandigarh, in northern India.

But Amanda wasn鈥檛 going in the hope of bumping into Sunil. Chandigarh鈥檚 pretty big, with a population spanning around 1.1 million in 2018.

鈥淚 just had this calling to come to India,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淚 wanted to do a bit of soul searching. A bit of 鈥楨at, Pray, Love,鈥 if you will.鈥

Amanda arrived in Chandigarh in the spring of 2018. She started posting Instagram updates 鈥 photos of meals out, views, snapshots posing with her friend.

And then she got a message:

鈥淲ait, you鈥檙e in my city?鈥 wrote Sunil.

Amanda didn鈥檛 reply right away.

鈥淚 kind of brushed it off and thought, 鈥極h, I鈥檓 not going to have time to meet him. I鈥檓 just here to meet friends,鈥欌 recalls Amanda.

But then, towards the end of the visit, Amanda鈥檚 friend unexpectedly had to head out of town. Suddenly with time to kill, Amanda figured it might be worth contacting Sunil 鈥 they鈥檇 got on so well on the phone, after all.

Now she was in India, the distance didn鈥檛 feel so daunting. And Sunil seemed to have forgiven Amanda for the temporary ghosting.

So Amanda suggested the two of them meet for lunch.

鈥淚 wanted to meet in a public place, because I was meeting someone from the internet in a foreign country where I couldn鈥檛 speak the language,鈥 she says.

Amanda was also vague about where she was staying 鈥 and about the fact her friend was now out of town. She was conscious that Sunil was essentially a stranger.

But as soon as Amanda saw Sunil in person, her fears were calmed.

鈥淚 just had this warm, comfortable, safe feeling,鈥 she says. 鈥淎nd it was all a bit exciting as well.鈥

Sunil鈥檚 perspective

In 2018, Sunil Rajput was a twenty something living in Chandigarh, working in the liquor industry and spending most of his free time in the gym or travelling.

He was single and not consciously looking for a relationship. But when Amanda arrived in his life out of the blue, Sunil was instantly intrigued.

He vividly remembers the first moment her name popped up on his screen, his phone notifying him he had a new follower.

鈥淚 thought, 鈥榃ow, she鈥檚 pretty,鈥欌 Sunil tells CNN Travel today. 鈥淲e started texting, and then we had the long conversation on the call. We shared a lot 鈥 sensitive conversation, our normal lives, romantic stuff, everything. We really opened up.鈥

Then, radio silence.

鈥淚 was like, 鈥榃hat鈥檚 happening? She鈥檚 not talking to me anymore.鈥 And then, all of a sudden, I鈥檓 seeing her on Instagram in India, and I felt like, 鈥榃hy didn鈥檛 she tell me?鈥欌

When Sunil realized Amanda was in his city, he debated whether to get back in touch.

鈥淪hould I let my ego down?鈥 he wondered.

Sunil hesitated, but he kept thinking back over their phone conversation. The way they鈥檇 connected on such a deep level. It felt like something worth exploring. And he realized that he was 鈥渁ctually looking for love, stability.鈥

So, Sunil dropped Amanda a message. And when Amanda replied, suggesting meeting up for lunch, Sunil decided he wanted to 鈥渄o something special for her.鈥

He suggested that 鈥 if Amanda was comfortable 鈥 he鈥檇 make her lunch at his apartment. Amanda didn鈥檛 say no, but suggested they meet in a public space first.

When Sunil saw Amanda in person, he was struck by how surreal the moment was. Externally, he tried to play it cool, but he recalls his heart beating fast as she approached.

鈥淚 was talking to this person, never expecting I鈥檇 meet her, now she鈥檚 standing in front of me,鈥 he says. 鈥淢y emotions were all over the place. Deep down, I was crying with happiness that she was here. But I was trying to act low-key.鈥

Amanda agreed to go to Sunil鈥檚 home for lunch, and he was excited to have the opportunity to demonstrate his cooking skills.

鈥淚 made Amanda some chicken curry, Indian style,鈥 he says. 鈥淲e had a nice lunch and spent a good time, we talked a lot.鈥

鈥淚 was really impressed by the effort he went to on our first meet-up/date,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淗e picked me up, cooked me lunch, took me to the local temple which is famous in his area and then went out for drinks. He was very respectful and dropped me back to my hotel as soon as I was ready.鈥

Amanda and Sunil parted that night excited to potentially meet again.

A couple days later, they went out together for a second time.

鈥淲e drank, danced a lot, and were really comfortable together,鈥 says Sunil.

For Amanda, it was that evening that made her start to seriously consider, 鈥淲hat is this? Could this be it? What if this is what I鈥檝e been looking for?鈥

Earlier that year, Amanda鈥檚 therapist had encouraged her to write all the traits and qualities she was looking for in a partner on a whiteboard.

In Chandigarh, Amanda kept getting flashbacks to the whiteboard and her list, which included values like family, fitness, food, respect for others, respecting boundaries, and communication.

鈥淪unil basically ticked all of the qualities,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淚t was almost like I鈥檇 manifested the whole situation.鈥

As for Sunil, he was pretty swept away by Amanda, too.

鈥淚 was ready to start something,鈥 he says. 鈥淚 wanted to see her again. But I didn鈥檛 know if it could actually happen. I didn鈥檛 know if I鈥檇 ever go to Australia or anything.鈥

Sunil decided to just ensure he and Amanda created 鈥渢he best memories鈥 while she was in India.

鈥淎nd I figured if it was meant to be, somehow we鈥檒l meet again,鈥 he says.

Staying in touch

Amanda returned to Australia, but she and Sunil stayed in touch. More long phone conversations followed, and regular messages back and forth.

Sunil and Amanda, pictured here at a friend's wedding earlier this year, are looking towards the future and excited for a life together. (Courtesy Amanda Boyce via CNN Newsource)

鈥淲e were talking every day,鈥 Amanda recalls. 鈥淎nd then Sunil said, 鈥業 want to get to know you a bit better. Do you want to come back to India?鈥 So I booked flights for June, about two months after my first trip.鈥

Amanda and Sunil started counting down the days 鈥 but when Amanda boarded her flight, the nerves hit and she found herself a little apprehensive.

鈥淚 did start to panic a little bit. I thought to myself, 鈥榃hat happens if I get there and my feelings have changed?鈥欌 recalls Amanda.

鈥淏ut then I walked out at the airport and saw him standing there. It was summer, 40 degrees (over 100 degrees Fahrenheit) in the middle of Delhi. But Sunil was holding roses and my favourite chocolate, which was melting in the heat. I walked out and saw him and I thought, 鈥楴o, this is the right decision.鈥欌

鈥淚t felt really special,鈥 says Sunil of the moment he saw Amanda again, at Indira Gandhi International Airport. 鈥淭he idea that somebody came all the way from a different country, to see me鈥︹

This time around, Sunil took time off work and 鈥渢ook Amanda everywhere.鈥 He wanted to impress her, win her over, spend as much time with her as he could.

鈥淚 took her to mountains, to the Himalayas to go trekking, on road trips, singing songs in the car for her, and karaoke sessions,鈥 he recalls. 鈥淚t was really memorable. I remember thinking, 鈥業f this doesn鈥檛 work out, I don鈥檛 know if I鈥檒l ever put this much effort into something with anybody else.鈥欌

One evening, sitting close to Sunil at a rooftop bar surveying the bustling city below, Amanda told Sunil she wanted to move to India.

鈥淚 said I wanted to move in 12 months鈥 time 鈥 that I knew that鈥檚 where I wanted to be,鈥 Amanda recalls. 鈥淚t was a drunken night. But I meant it. We started talking about our future and what we wanted.鈥

That night, Amanda and Sunil agreed marriage was important to them, that they wanted to start a new chapter of their life together.

鈥淚 was really happy,鈥 says Sunil. 鈥淏ut also a little panicked. I was used to living life alone, enjoying my freedom and everything.鈥

He was also concerned Amanda would change her mind about living in India. But the next day, when the alcohol haze had worn off, Amanda told Sunil she was sincere about what she鈥檇 said. And Sunil found himself thinking that 鈥渓ife would be better if she was here all the time.鈥

He even gave her a ring 鈥 it didn鈥檛 have to be an engagement ring, he said, if Amanda wasn鈥檛 ready yet. But it was a promise.

鈥淎 promise that we are always going to be together,鈥 says Sunil today.

This time, when Amanda returned to Australia, she promised she鈥檇 return.

And back in Brisbane, Amanda told her friends and her mother she鈥檇 met someone, and she was going to move to India to be with him.

There were more than a few raised eyebrows 鈥 many of her loved ones worried things had moved too quickly, that Amanda didn鈥檛 really know Sunil.

And Amanda was greeted with more concern when, in August 2018, she and Sunil got engaged on vacation in Thailand.

鈥淚t was a fairly quick engagement,鈥 admits Amanda. 鈥淚 did have a few people question if I was making the right choice, if I was rushing into things.鈥

Amanda understood their concerns, but she and Sunil were confident in their decision-making, and in their commitment to each other. And Sunil offered to speak to Amanda鈥檚 mother on the phone, to reassure her and get to know her a little from afar.

鈥淢y mom asked him all the different questions 鈥 what were his intentions and things like that,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淎nd afterwards, she felt really comfortable, she was fine.鈥

鈥淢y parents were really worried too,鈥 admits Sunil. 鈥淲e are really into religion and culture and they questioned, 鈥楬ow are you going to do it with a person from a different country, different culture and everything?鈥欌

But Sunil told them he knew Amanda was the right person for him.

鈥淎nd they trusted me,鈥 Sunil says. 鈥淚鈥檝e always been really independent.鈥

In Thailand, Sunil proposed to Amanda while they were on a night river cruise in Bangkok. Beforehand, he鈥檇 worried about how to actually go about it.

鈥淚n my culture, we don鈥檛 do this sitting on a knee proposing thing,鈥 Sunil explains. 鈥淎nd with the boat, I thought I had to do a romantic, 鈥楾itanic鈥 type thing.鈥

But Sunil put his nerves to one side, and gave Amanda the ring. She said yes. They kissed. Another passenger snapped a few surreptitious photos, which she later passed on to the couple.

鈥淚t was an amazing night under the sky and on the water. It was beautiful, and we spent a great time in Thailand,鈥 says Sunil. 鈥淲e did all the adventurous stuff together. We went to multiple bars and clubs and some days we were chilling next to the beach. Explored markets, shopping and saw so many temples.鈥

A new chapter together

Following the engagement, Amanda and Sunil decided they would wait a year before Amanda moved to India permanently.

This was what she鈥檇 suggested at the rooftop bar, after all 鈥 and it allowed a bit of time for the couple to continue to get to know each other.

鈥淚 did have a tendency to make decisions in the moment and not really think,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淪o I thought if I move to India after a year, then it鈥檒l give me time to make sure this is exactly what I want.鈥

In the meantime, Amanda and Sunil navigated a long distance relationship, meeting in person when they could.

鈥淭he long distance was really tough,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淭rying to find ways to stay connected that wasn鈥檛 repetitive.鈥

And when they were apart, Sunil often worried Amanda would change her mind.

鈥淚t鈥檚 a big decision, moving your entire life to a different country,鈥 he says. 鈥淚 thought she would one day wake up and think, 鈥楳aybe I won鈥檛.鈥欌

But by the following summer, Amanda was preparing to leave Australia, to relocate permanently. She gave in her notice at the insurance company where she worked.

鈥淚 was quitting my job. I had to sell all my belongings. I was leaving my family behind,鈥 she recalls.

鈥淎nd then in August 2019, I moved to India, to Chandigarh, to Sunil鈥檚 apartment 鈥 the one I visited on that first trip when he cooked me lunch.鈥

鈥淢y apartment turned into a proper home,鈥 says Sunil.

The first several weeks together in India were a 鈥渉oneymoon period,鈥 as Amanda puts it.

鈥淏ut when I realized that it wasn鈥檛 a holiday, that I had moved there, it was harder,鈥 she admits. 鈥淣ot the relationship, but I couldn鈥檛 speak the language, I didn鈥檛 have any friends.鈥

Amanda鈥檚 friend who lived in Chandigarh had since moved to Canada. Amanda knew no one, other than Sunil.

He reassured Amanda she would soon settle. 鈥淚t鈥檚 only been two months,鈥 he pointed out.

The couple decided to get a dog, whose presence comforted Amanda. Looking after the dog brought Amanda and Sunil even closer together.

And then, a few months after Amanda moved to India, she and Sunil got married. This was a special weekend for many reasons, not least of which because Amanda and Sunil鈥檚 families got to meet for the first time.

鈥淢y parents, my sister and her partner, and my brother and his partner, they all came over for two weeks, and I had a couple of friends come over too,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淔or me it was the happiest time of my life. I remember sitting on stage at one of my ceremonies, getting my mehndi applied on my hands and feet and watching Sunil鈥檚 family encouraging my family to dance and enjoy themselves.鈥

The two families had a language barrier 鈥 but their shared happiness was universal.

鈥淪unil鈥檚 parents don鈥檛 speak any English, my family don鈥檛 know any Hindi, yet language didn鈥檛 matter,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淎ctions, hand gestures and emotions were all that was needed and when my family said goodbye to Sunil鈥檚 family every single person was crying.鈥

The wedding weekend included four different ceremonies and celebrations 鈥 from cocktail parties to prayer ceremonies. Amanda loved wearing her gold and red wedding dress.

Here's Amanda and Sunil on their wedding evening in November 2019. (Courtesy Amanda Boyce via CNN Newsource)

鈥淪he looked amazing,鈥 says Sunil. 鈥淟ike she came out of the sky or something. It was a really unbelievable experience. I was really stressed out in the lead up. But I had a big fat smile on my face that day. I was so happy.鈥

In time, the couple became especially grateful for this day spent with family and loved ones. Only a few months after Amanda and Sunil鈥檚 wedding, the coronavirus pandemic shut down international travel and visiting Australia was out of the question.

2020 was characterized by a 鈥渂ig unknown feeling,鈥 as Amanda puts it. And then, in 2021, Covid cases skyrocketed in India.

鈥淚t was scary,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淭he pandemic was really, really bad here.鈥

Amid this fear and uncertainty, Amanda and Sunil hunkered down with each other and their dog.

鈥淚t definitely helped having each other, being close,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淭hat鈥檚 also when I learned how to cook Indian food.鈥

Once the pandemic waned, the two adopted a second dog. And once Amanda and Sunil were able to travel and go out more, life became more stable.

Sunil suggests going through the pandemic in the immediate aftermath of their wedding 鈥渕ade us a really different and a better version of ourselves.鈥

鈥淲e learned to love, we learned to live, we learned how to sacrifice and have patience and how to create a family,鈥 he says.

'Life is always giving you chances'

Today, Amanda and Sunil are still living in Chandigarh 鈥 now in a slightly larger apartment, and now with three dogs in tow.

鈥淚 really feel like this is home,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淚 feel really settled. And I feel really happy to be here, and very satisfied with how everything鈥檚 turned out. We鈥檙e finally able to travel and do things, we鈥檙e both doing really well in our own businesses 鈥 I think we live a really nice, comfortable, happy life.鈥

Amanda now runs a teaching business called 鈥淎ussie English with Amanda.鈥 As well as teaching frequent classes, she has also produced two online courses 鈥 one on Australian English and the other focusing on Aussie slang. She also posts work updates on her Instagram account.

Sunil says it鈥檚 been inspiring to watch Amanda develop her business, and he values her input in his career too, describing how they 鈥渉elp each other a lot.鈥

鈥淪unil has never stopped encouraging me from working and growing,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淲hen I started developing my online course and I was so busy that I was even forgetting to eat, he would cook me dinner and bring it to me even at 10 p.m.鈥

When they鈥檙e not focusing on their jobs, Amanda and Sunil enjoy working out together and exploring the beautiful nature on their doorstep in northern India.

鈥淭he gym and training is something that we bonded over early, in the beginning. We still go to the gym together,鈥 says Amanda. 鈥淎nd we like doing outdoor activities, travelling 鈥 we鈥檙e very close to the Himalayan Mountains, just a few hours away. So we like to go up there and do the hikes through the mountains.鈥

On more chilled weekends, Amanda and Sunil take turns taking each other to favourite coffee shops or restaurants. They really enjoy 鈥渢reating each other,鈥 as Sunil puts it.

In the future, the couple hopes to own a vacation home in Australia. They鈥檇 love to have children and travel the world as a family.

But for now, they鈥檙e focused on enjoying their present happiness 鈥 and occasionally reflecting on how they got here.

鈥淚t honestly still feels so unbelievable at times,鈥 says Amanda, of their unlikely Instagram-based love story. 鈥淚 just followed this complete stranger because he was good looking.鈥

Amanda never imagined she鈥檇 be happily married to Sunil, but she鈥檚 so glad that鈥檚 how life panned out.

鈥淚t鈥檚 so crazy to think that it was six-and-a-half years ago that we connected, and I came for that first trip, and now we鈥檙e here.鈥

鈥淵ou look back and it still feels like you鈥檙e surprised, you get goosebumps and everything, how it happened,鈥 agrees Sunil. 鈥淚t鈥檚 a movie story for me.鈥

For Sunil and Amanda, the message of the story is 鈥渓ife is always giving you chances out there. You just have to accept them,鈥 as Sunil puts it.

鈥淚 feel like sometimes we are too scared 鈥 always protecting our heart because of whatever we鈥檝e gone through in our past, and because of that, sometimes we end up losing out on the great things,鈥 he says.

鈥淢y message is simple: keep your heart open. No matter what you鈥檙e going through, you鈥檙e going to bump into something really great.

鈥淎nd if it鈥檚 not great, it means you still need more time to learn from it, and then you become stronger, and someday, sooner or later, you鈥檙e going to bump into something really nice, and it will change everything, and it will make everything work out.鈥 

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